Wedding bells
Well it’s raining buckets outside and unfortunately one of our airconditioners has decided to start leaking so the rain isn’t staying outside like it should. I knew it was going to rain today – over the last few days it’s been feeling a lot cooler and I’ve been celebrating the end of summer. Today it was much muggier again and everyone was complaining about the heat (again) but I
knew it was because it was going to start raining later. Clever, aren’t I? :-)
Now before I start going over the homework (Ana Paula you are right – the present perfect is indeed a minefield) I thought I’d write a little bit about my wedding and compare it to weddings here in India. One of our readers, Manoj, asked me about this and I thought it might be an interesting topic to discuss.
Ed and I met when we were at university in 1998. He was a friend of a friend. The first time I met him properly was at my 21st birthday party and then shortly after that we bumped into each other in the library on campus (although I later found out that he had engineered this ‘chance meeting’). Anyway, so we got on really well and started to hang out. Once we’d finished university we did a lot of travelling together (mostly around India) and then in 2004 we got married – just before we moved to Delhi.
Our wedding was quite small by English standards and teeny weeny by Indian standards! We only had close friends and family to the actual ceremony. This took place in a lovely town hall in a town in Dorset, near Ed’s mum’s farm. Neither of us are religious (although as you know, I am very interested in learning about different religions) so we decided against having the ceremony in a church. In England it’s quite common these days to have what they call ‘civil marriages’ were the wedding is performed by a person called a registrar, who works for the government, rather than a priest.
After the ceremony (which only lasted about 20 minutes!) we had a big lunch for everyone back at the farm, with lots of delicious vegetarian food and a beautiful cake. In England the cutting of the cake is one of the big traditions – the bride and groom are supposed to do the first cut together while everyone watches and cheers.
In the evening we had a big party on the farm that we lived on at the time (about 40 minutes away) for all of our friends. About 150 people came which I guess is quite a lot and we had a blast. We had fireworks and champagne and then a big breakfast in the morning that my Costa Rican friend Paula cooked for everyone – it was quite a job!
In contrast, Indian weddings tend to be huge, lavish affairs. I’m speaking mostly about Hindu weddings here as I don’t know much about Muslim or Sikh ones I’m afraid. Guest lists can reach up to 500 people or more and families tend to rent out large halls to have the weddings in. Traditionally, marriages are arranged by the families of the bride and groom who may not have met each other before the day of the wedding. However, these days, in the big cities, it’s much more common for weddings to be partially arranged. By this I mean that families still help the bride and groom to find each other but very often they will meet several times before the wedding to get to know each other a bit. Also, both the boy and girl can refuse someone if they don’t like them – they don’t have to agree to marry the first person their families choose.
Ed and I had known each other for about six years before we got married and my parents had nothing to do with us meeting. Ed did ask my parents for my hand in marriage before he asked me though. That’s the tradition in England although I think it might be becoming less common.
Anyway, here’s a photo of us cutting the cake. Do you like my dress? :-) It’s not the traditional white! It only cost me 20 pounds from a charity shop - bargain! 
Now I guess we should get down to work. First of all, let’s look at Adriana’s answers to the present perfect homework I set you… it was pretty difficult, I know.
1) So what are the consequences of this figure? The market became highly specialized for the benefit of the population.
Adriana’s answer: 1- has become – CORRECT!
2) I’ve noticed you’ve brought the religion issue up today.
Adriana’s answer: 2- I think it's correct or I have to swallow the word 'today'. OOPS! Well, it’s almost right. You just need to change the first verb to ‘I noticed’ – past simple. This is because the noticing is over, you only needed to do it once in this case.
3) After a short trip ‘by car’ to Domingos Martins city, at the last moment, I’ve changed my plans to take a long trip ‘by bus’ to the historical cities ( Ouro Preto, Mariana and Tiradentes) in Minas Gerais state.
Adriana’s answer: 3- I changed my plans YES!
4) My unique option was to take the long trip ‘by bus’ to Minas Gerais. I’ve had a great time there, visiting museums and churches dotted around the cities.
Adriana’s answer: 4-My unique option would be taking the long trip...I had a great time there. ALMOST! No need to change the first verb. ‘My unique option’ sounds a bit strange… can you suggest something else?
5) I’ve had a look at the dictionary but I don’t think it’s the same rave here
Adriana’s answer: 5-I've looked at the NO! This is the correct sentence! It’s fine as it is.
6) Apart from the unproven theory that the Phoenicians (incidentally coming from Africa to the Brazilian coast) have had been here firstly, all we learn since our childhood is that Brazil was discovered by Portugal
Adriana’s answer: 6-had been here NOT QUITE! It should be ‘were here first’ and ‘all we have learnt since our childhood’
7) Isn’t strange that the independence of Brazil has been declared by a prince from Portugal?
Adriana’s answer: 7-was declared YEP! CORRECT!
Well done Adri and all our readers who got some or all of the answers right. It’s a very difficult tense so don’t get disheartened with your mistakes. Practice makes perfect! Adriana you have used it nicely a couple of times in your most recent post, well done! Just try to be aware of it when you are using it and double check with yourself that you are using it correctly.
Okay now today I’m going to give you some easier homework. I’ve noticed (you see here it is over a period of time so the present perfect is appropriate) that sometimes you make mistakes with your noun-verb agreement and use of plurals. Have a look at these sentences and see if you can correct the mistakes.
1) zillions of them doesn’t know that, because the main oponents are themselves.
2) All the money are on the politicians' pockets.
3) What we brazilian dentists do, most part of the population doesn’t know because we work silent among 4 walls.
4) Simple and poor people who has sold all their belongings believing in a new wonderful life here.
5) I started other activity
6) We made a good profit and everybody wanted our sandwich
7) One of the trainnings was at the company where I work today.
Thanks for your last two interesting posts, Adriana. I particularly enjoyed hearing about your funny conversation with your son, as well as your creative ways of getting money together to fund your studies. Very interesting!
Okay that’s plenty for today.
More soon,
Amy
…but of course I won’t go without going over the vocabulary…
Knackered: extremely tired
Anaesthetic: a drug you can be given to take away all feeling in a particular part of your body, or you whole body if it is a ‘general’ anaesthetic
Horrid: horrible, very bad
Bane: if something is the bane of your life it is the thing which causes you the most unhappiness or trouble
Nincompoop: old-fashioned (but funny) way of saying ‘a stupid or silly person’
To follow someone (see context): to understand what someone is saying
Cliff: the edge of a country or island which drops suddenly, often into the sea
Bionic: electronic and more powerful than normal human ability - superhuman
Truckloads: a very large amount
HEAPS of new words and phrases
To rain buckets
A minefield
To bump into
To engineer (see context)
To hang out
Teeny weeny
To take place
To cheer
A blast (see context)
Lavish
Partially
To ask for someone’s hand in marriage
A charity shop
To be disheartened
And some old ones for revision…
Muggy
Free range
Scrumptious
To put your finger on something
Endangered
Definitions here!
Phew! What a long post!
Comments
Dear Amy. I like very much your wedding photo. I can see that Ed is really happy!!!!!!!! I'm prepariong my wedding, but as yours It won't be very showy. Time for homework: 1)Zillions of them DON’T know that, because the main opponents are themselves. 2)All the money IS on the politicians' pockets 3) What we Brazilian dentists do, most part of the population doesn’t know because we work silent among 4 walls. 4) Simple and poor people who has sold all their belongings believE in a new wonderful life here. 5) I started ANother activity 6) We made a good profit and everybody wanted our sandwichES 7) One of the TRAININGS was at the company where I work today. Best regards
Hi, teacher Amy. I feel like your dress look so cool and neat wedding dress exactly. Well, I have one question to ask you. Why the cake have tree piece,four piece or something like that in the wedding ceremony? See you next time.
Dear Amy, Most of the people who are familiar with New Delhi know that it has hot summer and when it is muggy, certainly there should be rainfall to cool down the temperature. But you suffered raining inside and outside of your room due to leakage of airconditioner. Comparison of wedding between your wedding and Indian wedding can not highlight actual wedding ceremonies in Hindu tradition. In Hindu tradition it takes more than 1 day to complete ritual functions except feast. Here are the corrections of sentences: 1) Zillions of them don’t know that, because the main opponents are among themselves. 2) All the money is in the politicians' pockets. 3) What we Brazilian dentists are doing, most part of the population don’t know because we work silent within 4 walls. 4) Simple and poor people who have sold all their belongings believe in a new wonderful life here. 5) I started other activities. 6) We made a good profit and everybody wanted our sandwich. 7) One of the trainnings was at the company where I am working today. Here are the meanings of the words: To rain buckets –to rain heavily A minefield -complicated and full of hidden problems To bump into -to meet someone you know when you have not planned to meet them To engineer (see context) -to arrange cleverly and often secretly for something to happen, especially something that is to your advantage To hang out -to spend a lot of time in a place or with someone Teeny weeny –very small To take place –to happen(held) To cheer -to give a loud shout of approval or encouragement A blast (see context) -a sudden loud noise Lavish -more than enough, especially if expensive; very generous Partially -not complete To ask for someone’s hand in marriage –ask permission for marriage A charity shop- a shop in which a charity sells all types of used goods which are given by the public, or in which they sell new goods, to make money for the work of the charity To be disheartened- to discourage
Hi, Amy. You used a construction in your last blog that is very troublesome for me. I always get confused when I come to using it. You said: "my parents had nothing to do with US meeting". Would it be correct to say "my parents had nothing to do with OUR meeting" too? Which sounds more natural: "I hope you don't mind ME disturbing you like this" or "I hope you don't mind MY disturbing you like this"?
Hi Amy!!! Wow! Your dress only costed 20 pounds! You look so terrific wearing it! A bargain indeed! :-)Apart from that, your wedding cake looks scrumptious. Yummy! Oh Amy, I´m going to owe you the today homework. I´ve been worked 12 hours a day recently, so I want to rest a little bit. Later alligator ;-), Ana Paula xx.
Hello Amy! It was very interesting to read about how you and Ed met. Humm Ed,you had started to like Amy that's why you engineered those chance meeting:) and why not, Amy is a pretty women isn't she? Amy you look stunning in the photo and the best part I liked is that, the bride is not in that traditional white dress. Naheed:)
Hi Amy! Unlike the UK, more and more couples cohabitate over here and if they get married, they choose a civil ceremony. Most Italians are Roman Catholic and if you decide to get married in church, you have to attend a pre-marriage course. If you do not attend it, you cannot get married in church. Several people argue over this because they consider it unimportant, but you have to bear in mind that you do not have to get married in church, if you do not want it. As for the party after the ceremony, it depends on your family habits and where you live. Southern people are usually more traditionalist and their weddings tend to be like the Indian ones, but they last just one day because the banquet usually includes lunch and dinner whereas most couples that live in the north of the country usually throw a shorter banquet that can include just a refreshment party ( it has become popular to have just it)or a main meal. It depends on the time of the ceremony. Mind you, if you have a civil ceremony, it is usually like yours. Loads of people have just a refreshment party in the open air or they rent a mansion where they throw a party. As far as I am concerned, no matter the type of ceremony, If I got married, I would throw a refreshment party. I am not just saying that because I am from Northern Italy, but because loads of people get bored when a party lasts too much and I do not want to see my guests bored. Sorry for my English. Thanks for replying to my comment. I so appreciate it! Have a good week-end, Filippo
Hi Amy! I love your wedding photo indeed. The dress suit you perfectly and blue arrangement evoke me instantly that you are mother of the happy Luie!You both with Ed look evidently very happy. Civil mariages were common and only official allowed before 1989 in my country. My oldest sister(a dentist) got married in a church secretly without a family or friends in a distant area and a half year after the official weddeng ceremony arranged in our caste with a registrar. For this with a party we were there only twelve persons, too, as the closest family. Nowadays, after the change of the political situation in this region, there came an opportunity for people to make big money due to a free access to begin with privat businesses and they organize pompous weddings in a church along with that in the caste here. You would hardly see coming two persons in your style with their two witnesses only as befor. Thanks for the long post. Best wishes!
hi! Amy When i was reading the first paragraph of your blog it reminds me of frogs.Frogs know when it rains because they breathe with their lungs and skins.That means if they breathe with their skin,the skin has to be wet.So they have super sense of water or damp air.Before raining it's easy for them to breathe.I think you are very clever indeed.you look beautiful in blue and of course your man also looks good. sorry i am a bit in a hurry so i can't edit my blog nicely like using capital.have a good day!
You asked if we liked your dress. Well, yes- the dress is nice, but YOU look just perfect;)
Hi Amy, You are correct. People are ready to spend as much as amount they want for wedding. Frankly it is not all necessary. Particularly for food and dresses we spend too much. Other wise friends and relatives think in a different way. I know people spend Rs.20000 for crackers alone for wedding. It is really a waste. There are lots of formalities to be fulfilled at the marriage time. You have to give new dresses for close relatives. Those costs alone add the bill heavily.
Hello Amy, I loved to know about your marriage. Your dress was lovely, but I must say I went crazy about that cake. I love wedding cakes. Yet, I was bestman to my cousin in her wedding last saturday but I left the party before the cake was cut. Can you believe that? My mom wanted to go home and I had to take her. Let me try to do the homework: 1) zillions of them doesn’t (DON'T) know that, because the main oponents are themselves. 2) All the money are (IS) on the politicians' pockets. 3) What we brazilian dentists do, most part of the population doesn’t (DON'T) know because we work silent among 4 walls. 4) Simple and poor people who has (HAVE) sold all their belongings believing in a new wonderful life here. 5) I started (AN) other activity 6) We made a(NO NEED FOR THE ARTICLE) good profit and everybody wanted our sandwich 7) One of the trainnings was at the company where I work today. (ISN'T THIS ONE CORRECT?) Well Amy, thank you once more for your nice words. Bye.
Hello Amy :-) I like the picture of you and Ed cutting the wedding cake. You write that in England the bride and groom are supposed to do the first cut together. I think that it's an international tradition or custom because in Poland, at least where I live, tis tradition is very popular. The same with the tree-storey cake, the difference is only that I've never seen a white wedding one: they are normally multicoloured with 'All the best' written in cream. By the way, why sometimes you can come across 'a picture of me' and 'a picture of you', and sometimes 'a picture of myself' and 'a picture of yourself'. Does it make a big difference or it's just a style of saying or writing? Could you please spare some place in you blog and explain it to me?
Hello Amy! Wow! What a photo! You look so nice and happy, the dress goes well on you and the cake is yummy! Also interesting to know how your wedding took place and weddings in India do. They go almost similar to ours here. Amy, will you have your conditioner fixed or discard it? We usually have out-of-work machines repaired repaired repaired until they can't be :). Thank you for the present perfect lesson. Best wishes, Myen.
Hi Amy, You mentioned that Ed and you visited many places in India before your marriage. I would like to know which one is influenced you both to visit and stay in India. You said neither of you are religious. But you are interested in learning about religion. It is strange to know that you are learning different religion without practicing it. Have you heard about “Revolutionary Marriages”? E.V.R. Ramasamy is one of the revolutionary leaders in Indian history. He is the founder of Dravidian Party in India. Actually we are celebrating his birth anniversary today. He was totally against the tradition hindu marriages surrounded by lot of rituals which many of us do not know the meaning. He had performed revolutionary marriages without the presence priests like you did in front of registrar. Now many of the politicians in Tamil Nadu are following his footsteps. In this context your marriage was also a revolutionary one. But you can’t think that Indian parents will allow their children to get to know each other before four years their marriage. Now some educated parents permit their children for few weeks or few months before marriage to know their likings. How did you decide to keep away from your traditional white marriage dress? This one is also a good. But still you want to maintain the tradition of cutting cake in the marriages. You both are nice behind the cake. You made for each other.
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