Comments - Arranged marriage
I am really happy to read all your comments.Everyone has described the marriage system of their place.Thanks a lot for taking your time to comment on my post.
And one thing I want to make clear is I am not totally against arranged marriage system.I was happy to read Kieren, my teachers post about this topic.Without much explanation he has really understood what I meant in that post.
I hope that you will give the same response to my new post too :)
Now individual reply..
Vijay,Rabail,Kuldeep,
Thanks a lot for your comments.I understood all the points you told.I know marriage is not only a bond between two persons but also a bond between two families.
Pilar,
But this arranged marriage system is going on well in our country.I mean there are not much number of divorces.Girls wait for her person.She doesn't fall in love with others before marriage.After marriage whoever he be, she will treat her like God.
James,
What you told is very correct.My parents used to tell wedding is not a bond between two individuals, but it is a bond between two families.
Ewa,
Actually sometimes I think this is a good system.Earlier we were not allowed to talk to our man before marriage.Only on the wedding day bride will be able to see him.But now it is advanced.We can talk and decide whether he suits us or not.So it is okay.
Marwan,
Thanks for your wishes :).Here also marriage is based on love and affection.The difference is after getting married only we will start to love.
Emily,
I don't think I will fell in love with a stranger. :).Thanks for your wish.
Valeria,Ramilton
True.I can understand my parents and they can understand me too.They have given me full freedom but I don't want to misuse it.I have the freedom to say no if i didn't like a person.It is not like they will force me to marry a person whom I don't like.They are very sweet parents :)
Antonio,
I like that piece of information :)
Nadin,
It is all luck right?whether it is arranged marriage or love marriage..and about slumdog millionaire..I have watched that movie.I will tell you what, India is like two different countries.Half of the people in a darker world and the other half in a brighter world.In that movie you can see the darker India.Come to India sometime :)
Aigali,
It is 100 % true. :)
Henrique,
Divorces are less in arranged marriage system.People adjust to their partners and live happily.They don't get divorced for silly reasons.
Teresa,
Thanks a lot :)..I too hope for the best!!
Cherry,
True.This is a way to protect our culture.
Kiki,
Thanks for your valuable comment :)..I too like a arranged cum love marriage. :)
Rudolf,
Thanks a lot for your valuable comment.What you told about personal decision is very true.And you are only 37 rt?You have time to find out your right person. :)
Raquel,
Are you talking of the movie "Bride and Prejudice"? It is also like this.Arranged marriage is long lasting when compared to love marriage.So here marriage life is going on well.
Ann,
I liked your comment.What you told is very true.And I am also not against this system.What I like is arranged cum love marriage.I am not upset ok :).My parents are really sweet and I hope I will get a good person :)
Naheed,
Thank you for your comment and also for your wishes :)
Doni,
I took your advice :) I liked that saying "with a good luck".
Marikas,
Here, virginity is something which girls treasure like anything.If we lose virginity we even suicide.So having a sexual life before marriage doesn't happen in a large number.I too think this is the right way.Let me ask you a question.What if two persons don't want to marry after getting a child?I mean what will happen to that child?
Ingrid,
My prayers for you to find out your right person.
Thu Thảo,
Your English is very good man.So in which standard are you studying?And about improving English, you try to send a mail to bbc and you will get the chance to be a blogger or at least you can start your own blog.If you want any help to start a blog of your own, ask me I will help.Write a lot and your English is gonna improve.All the best!
Agata,
True.What times :)
Fabulous,
Is it your real name?Then that name is fabulous :)
Sara,
I am hearing the medical test thing for the first time.I don't know when it is gonna come to our country.Due to large number of diseases I think this is a good measure.
Royal Dominic,
Thank you.
Lucy,
I really really liked your comment.I have an E number.Yeah yeah so you are gonna find a person for me :).I will give you my e number after sometime.Now I am shy :)
Satya,
I loved that kutti call :).I was in Hyderabad for more than one year.In hitec city.Where do you stay?
Simo,
Wow..Globalisation in marriage is a brilliant idea!!
Laura,
It is all luck..
Rashna,
Welcome.You try to send a mail to bbc and you will get the chance to be a blogger or at least you can start your own blog.If you want any help to start a blog of your own, ask me I will help.Write a lot and your English is gonna improve.All the best!
Machado_Assis,
I too like meeting other people and their culture.Thank you for your comment.
Regis,
If a person is having similar status as mine then it is not wrong to love that person.If he is in any other religion or something then it will not be accepted.
Boska,
How swweet...I was really missing this
Arthur,
You are very correct.I know people who are happily living even after arranged marriage.
Thiago,
What you told about feel is very true.
Anderson,
Thank you
Taru,
You understood it :). I will go through that link very soon.Is it that site from where we can understand which type of person we are?Have you read Fountain Head by Ayn Rand?
Comments
Hello Asha ! At last you come back. Where have you been !? I couldn't wait for your posts. Thanks for your answer about marriage system. If you are allow to choose your man i think it's ok. Looking forward for your post. have a nice day :)
Thanks for your reply. I am happy for your return! Best wishes
Oh, I also wanna be a blogger on BBC. So I sent a mail to BBC Learning English two weeks ago. Asha, when did you a reply of your mail? What about the themes? Should you fix the themes in your "application" mail? Or could you decide by yourself during blogging? Are there no-go themes? Every day I hope for a reply and a consent. I agree with you about virginity. It is really a treasure. I conserved my virginity until wedding day. It was not easy and I didn't like to go to gynaecologist ... because it is not common to wait till wedding in Germany. I did never regret it.
Hello Asha! You asked what will happen to the child if parents don´t want to get married. Well, many couples don´t marry at all or do it after several years and are living together as a family. But if the couple can´t live together mostly the mother is the one who takes care of the child and if the relationship is good enough the father also meets his child and takes part in child´s life although they are living in a different address. He probably pays cost of living doing his bit of duties. We have quite many single mothers and I´m not sure if it is due to the fact that women have become more independent or that the social security is pretty good so it is easier to get along with a child alone without a man which has also two sides. Is it better to live with a man with whom you can´t get along or bring up a child alone without quarrels?.. Difficult questions.
funny thank!
A couple who wed due to parents compliments is not at all taboo especially tho this present country I am living. Though I never witnessed that before, I heard a lot of stories with regards to this issue. For me, I think it is a blessing from their parents that their children were paired to the person of their choice in a lifetime, afterall, cliche as it may sound, they say that parent's knows best for their children. The only thing that bothers me is that what if this couple are not compatible with each other and they keep arguing as they live together in one house? Although some says that as they live together in one roof, they will eventually fall in-love with each other. However, what if their is a third party and that is another issue specially if the other half is focused with another person.
appreiciate ur time for writing on indian culture
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