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Jenny, this is very interesting topic, as usual. I am a father and a son as well and this is the reason why I am on both sides of conflicts every day. I know that my parents want me the best but I do not agree with their opinion very often. I want the best for my son but he does not agree with my opinion very often as well. It is natural that we have the different opinion on the same problem because we are influenced with different experiences, knowledge and circumstances. I am sure if we have the same experiences and knowledge like our parents and our children we would agree with the majority of their opinions. On the first view, it is clear that we cannot have the same knowledge and experiences, mainly because we are different age. There is only one solution how to prevent the conflicts. The name of the best solution is COMPROMISE. Of course, I know that compromise is not the universal solution for everything but on the other hand, we can use this solution in majority cases. I am sure I will not be able to influence my son’s whole life. He is adult and therefore his success or failure fully depends only on him. He will have to rely on his head and hands as I do. I can advise anything to him but final solution will be only on him. He has become a decision maker since he became adult. My son has a girlfriend but I will not live with her and therefore I do not try to influence him. I only advice him that they must get accustomed to each other and if there is any unsolvable problem between them the best solution is to find another girlfriend. Maybe, our life is so exciting and interesting because we do not see the consequence of our decisions immediately. If we know all consequences immediately, our life would be too boring.

I suppose, there are no universal recommendations. The solution has to be based on real people (parents, children and partners), their family relationship, education, personalities, country... It is great, if there is at least one family member, who is rational and not only emotional. Such person could help to find an applicable compromise. A good friend is welcomed too. Probably your friend could consult some psychologist about this problem. Jenny, your advice is also rational and I hope it will work and your friend will manage this complicated situation. Even after some months or years (perhaps after birth of a grandchild) the relations could be stronger. Nobody knows. But it is a real life. Good luck!

Hi! dear Jozef, I thik your analysis is really reasonable. I cann't agree any more that "our life is so exciting and interesting because we do not see the consequence of our decisions immediately. " I like your comment. thank you! Bye!