My Lost Brother

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This is the story of Rani Bilkhu. When she was 11 years old her baby brother Jaspal died. No-one in her family ever speaks about this and the silence has tormented Rani for decades. She didn't go to the funeral, no one did. In fact no one even knows where Jaspal is buried. Rani is second generation Panjabi Sikh and says, in her culture, especially in the 1980s, there was a tendency for families to cover up difficult issues and not involve children in bereavement. Now, as she reaches 50, Rani wants some answers. She wants to find Jaspal's grave not just for herself but for also for her mum and hopes it'll bring them closer together. The presenter is Grace Dent and the producer is Perminder Khatkar. If you've been affected by bereavement, or child bereavement, help and support is available. BBC Action Line.