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Goodbye to All This

“I still love him and I miss him.” Losing the thing you are most sure of and coming out the other side - a story about life, love and loss. A 12-part memoir by Sophie Townsend.

World Service,13 episodes

Episodes

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12. Moving
He’s still here all the time. Yet he’s not. And a diary has more in it than expected
28 Dec 2020,32 mins
11. The shoe
“She hates me going into her room”. A pink, strappy, high-heeled shoe causes a big row
21 Dec 2020,19 mins
10. Appointment
The washing machine breaks. The bills are mounting. Sophie almost electrocutes herself
14 Dec 2020,24 mins
9. Something new
“You’ll never find anyone if you’re not online.” Sophie is ready to start dating again
07 Dec 2020,29 mins
8. Going under
“Mama, I can’t get to you!” There’s unexpected danger on a family holiday
30 Nov 2020,31 mins
7. Port in the storm
“His death is nothing like the worst thing. The worst thing is now”
23 Nov 2020,25 mins
6. The funeral
Love, flashes of anger and remembering funny things
16 Nov 2020,21 mins
5. The crowded goodbye
“He was covered in flowers and looked so peaceful."
09 Nov 2020,34 mins
4. Crashing waves
“I’m sorry it’s not better news.” A hospital appointment feels like a polite break-up
02 Nov 2020,36 mins
3. Family portrait
“Hold on, we think. Hold on.” A photo and a moment captured, before it all begins
26 Oct 2020,34 mins
2. The secret
“Of course you’re crying. You’re very, very frightened.” And now nobody must know
18 Oct 2020,27 mins
1. A shadow
“He blows a kiss and I see it - exhaustion in his eyes. How didn’t I notice it before?”
11 Oct 2020,22 mins
Prologue
“I don’t dream about him for weeks. And then, there he is, woven into my sleep.”
01 Oct 2020,2 mins