margaret lee
I was on hormone replacement Climaval 2mg for many years after having a hysterectomy, I decided to come off it three years ago after dicussing it with my G.P.I am now seventy one years of age and although I no longer suffer from the severe indigestion and aching legs I had whilst taking H.R.T I have had hot flushes for the last three years also urinary infections, I am presently taking Soy Isoflavins with Black cohosh which is helping a little but I honestly wish I had never taken H.R T. as I am sure I wouldn't be suffering at my age with these problems now

Loula Eliades
I have felt unwell for a few months, and I know if I see my GP he will prescribe HRT which I do not want to take as it will make me put on weight. I have started to take a natural remedy which I hope will help with the extreme hot flashes and sleepless nights and the feeling of unwell.

Susan Peel
I have been suffering from menopausal symptoms for nearly 5 years and nothing I have tried has helped. I can quite sympathise with how this lady feels. Like she said it is as if you are ill mentally and physically but cannot properly express exactly how how you feel and how bad it is. My worse times are at night when I am unable to sleep maybe because of the hot flushes and maybe because I feel strange, like a different person who feels trapped in a changing personality who feels aggravated by every little thing to the point of extreme uncontrollable anger. I keep hoping it will end and I will feel normal again. The doctor suggested HRT which only made me feel worse. Herbal remedies have no effect and I dont want to start on anti depressants. Maybe it helps a little to know that there are so many others who suffer the same feelings.

Laura
I am 37, I have young children, and I'm going through an early menopause. I can relate to nearly everything that has been said. Some days I truly feel like I am losing my mind. I wish I had someone to talk to about it, someone who knows what I'm experiencing. My husband is very supportive but he doesn't understand - how can he? I might get him to read all these comments, though.

lynda evans
I am 42 and have been told by my doctors that I have been menopausal for about 4 years. I am now post menopausal. I am now trying my 2nd type of HRT and I hope so much that it does something to help me. I am depressed, tired, ache all over. I feel sometimes that I am no longer coping with everyday life. I was not ready for this and feel very resentful especially as me and my husband only got married last year. I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Carol
Another person to the list. Thank you I am not going mad after all.

Pam. Biggs
I am so glad I found this video, to know that it is "normal" to feel so lousy and that with time it will get better. I just feel so miserable.

Sue
I feel much better for reading all the comments. I am 45yrs old and the doctor tells me he thinks I am suffering from depression but it has only occurred in the last 12months with night sweats, panic attacks etc. It is such a relief to see so many middle aged women with the same symptoms that arrive out of the blue and knock you for six.

Marilyn White
I have found taking Menopace has helped a lot. It is a natural vitamin/mineral supplement which you take one-a-day with your main meal and water. Do try it and let me know if it helps you too, it takes about 1-2 weeks for the full benefit. I still can not sleep very well but do not get hardly any hot flushes now. I have also heard that the "menopause cake" is good too.

Christine Ayling
I to feel the same as Liz, it does make you feel you are the only one,and then you read of others, and dont feel so alone!!!!

Madeleine
Looking at this video has made me feel so much better. Now I understand what is happening to me. I am 58 yrs old and at the back of my mind I was afraid that I had cancer, because my waterworks play me up so much. For 6 yrs now I keep getting infections,and when I give a specimen to my GP it comes back clear. So I am now going to stop worrying.

Sue
I found that taking Mexican Yam stopped the hot flushes and made me feel much better.

Sally Freer
I am so pleased that my Mam was able to help so many people with this video. It makes me very proud that she's my Mam. She is a lot better now and keeping busy looking after the old people.

Chris Cooper
I found this site by accident by I am so relieved I have. I thought I was going to end it all I just couldn't understand myself. I feel ill all the time and seem to catch every thing going. I really thought I had some serious illness that was going to kill me. I worry about my health all the time. I am a single parent and with a girl of 14 and a boy of 12 I thought I would not be around to see them grow up. I too am paranoid and hate being on my own, I am so relieved to read of others feeling this way and maybe now I will start to feel better.

Gillian Williams
I am amazed that so many women have exactly the same symptoms as me. I am 55 and am still suffering with the sweats, anxiety. Every day is a struggle. I worry about all sorts of different things, and I also get so tired after doing very little. When will it all end?

Marie
I could cry all day every day. Sometimes I feel so depressed I cannot think striaght. I am fed up dealing with this alone. I have had family and work relationships shatter due to my extreme behaviour. I have truly felt mentally ill. I have really needed understanding but it is difficult for others to understand something when you don't realise yourself what is happening. It is like a big bad secret no-one wants to tell. I struggle every day and after 2 years am only just starting to feel I getting to grip with myself and begin to diffuse the irrationality of the menopause in order to give me and my family a break. Hopefully we will make it through together.

Patty
Thank you Liz for sharing how you feel, it made me feel less crazy. It's the hot flushes that are really getting me down at the moment they are getting really intense. Also the parnoid feelings. I feel something bad is going to happen all the time. I have a fear of going out too but so far I have not given into these feelings and face my fears every day. My husband is very supportive and understanding I'm gratefull for that. It is so good to know that I am not alone.

Sandra
I am 51 years and feel strange in body & head and am forgetful I don't get many hot flushes though. I don't want to take hrt but do take oil of primrose. I am glad I found this page and look forward to being myself again.

Jan
At 46 I was feeling old, achey, forgetful, suffering panic attacks for no reason, day and night sweats, going into shops in the winter with sweat pouring off my face, soaking my clothes,nothing seemed right. Had a very sympathetic female doctor who put me on hrt, mum has osteoporosis, within a week change was fantastic, all aches went, sweats stopped and havent had a panic attack since. See her every 6 months and feel am being well monitored, know of risks but well worth it, there is life and symptoms can be managed, keep pushing for some help from doctor or find other way. Best of luck to all others in same situation.

Katie
I must be one of the lucky ones. I am 54 I do get hot flushes a few times a day and I just open all the windows or sit outside for a while until I cool down. I suffer now and again in memory loss, but nothing drastic, and I do get palputations now and again. I havent seen a period for 2 years now and am pleased to see the back of them. When I started the menopause I cut back on what I ate and made sure that what I did eat was healthy with a treat now and then. Also I walk 3 miles a day, I think it is very important to keep active and excercise and I have never taken and will not take hormones, after all it is not an illness just another stage in life.

Del
I have read about menopause and I saw it in my Mum. But at 39 I did not think I would have gone though this. It is very hard when u are a bit younger. It was all to do with cancer cells. I had everything taken away and I feel like I am on my own.

Renee
Yes, like a hell on Earth. I am 53 years old and have been going through this in degrees for at least 10 years, I'd say. At first you don't know what's wrong, but you change. It isn't really discussed openly between people, so you wonder if you are normal and seek information on your own. Relationships on all fronts are strained and the fact that it is due to menopause holds no validity. I personally feel that if I were not taking St. John's Wort as thereapy for mood swings, I'd be in real trouble. It has kept me as even as possible. I just wonder if and when these horrible symptoms (I have them all)will end. I can't fit into my clothes and have no ambition or will-power to stick with any healthy regimen, although all my life I have been totally disciplined to do so. On a positive note, though, I am now beginning to feel free to pursue my interests and enjoy the rest of my life.

Rowen
I can identify with the comments in the video and above. It is annoying when books and health professionals say that the symptoms are due to other factors, such as children leaving home, caring for elderly parents, being negative etc. These things may contribute, but if we have coped with bringing up families and juggling career so far, and all of life's ups and downs, monthly hormones, pregnancy etc, why would we cave in now? The lack of concentration, extreme tiredness and exhaustion are something unexpected and its hard to stay positive about anything when its at its worst. My Mum, in her late seventies has much more energy and enthusiasm than me, so perhaps there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Ann
Thank God I am not on my own, this is the most horrible feeling I have ever experienced. I'm at the early stage of thinking I'm going mad. I'M SURE IF MEN WENT THROUGH THIS A CURE WOULD HAVE BEEN FOUND BY NOW!!

Jessie
Please, Liz you are not alone dear, we are here too... Some days I don't if I am coming or going and depression is one thing I always tried to stay away from... but now its like it sinks the Joy and Happiness right out of you. Another thing that scares me is that I can't stand to be in a room where the door is closed, it is like I can not breath... I need air and I eat crushed ice all the time. So Liz Sweetie, you are not alone trust us.

Teresa Williams
My thoughts are with Liz. I am 50 and somtimes I feel I am the only one going though it, but I try to keep smiling. Love to Liz.

Sandy
I too feel as you do, and Diane has said exactly how I feel. I have little or no concentration and feel so worn out all the time. I'm so forgetful it's scary and get the sweats too. I wish it would end soon, but after 9 years of it I wonder when it will end. There are times when I feel like just curling up in a ball and giving up on life.

Susan Hay
Sympathise entirely; it's the strangest experience. I've been through the worst of the panic attacks and depression (I hope!) and am trying to relax into rediscovering myself. The kids are a bit older now and I have more time to myself. After the initial fear of this I've begun to make long-term plans for myself, joined a few clubs etc. I still feel like an alien some days but what the hell!

Anne Strong
This video made me cry - I thought nobody else was going through this, that I was all alone!

Sue Lambeth
Did you feel scared to leave the house on your own? I have gone from being a successful businesswoman, to a completely withdrawn person. I feel my partner does not love me, and I am totally paranoid about the world. I am only 37 and had a hysterectomy 3 years ago. I am waiting for blood results, but will I ever get my old self back? I have lost my sense of humour and my life.

Sally
I'm 48 years old and I feel it. It is as though you are a different person. For 2 years now I have suffered from panic attacks and anxiety - I lose my temper very quickly. I feel ill all the time. I too sympathise with with any women going through this. I never thought it would be like this. (Chin up)

Diane Morrice
I was so relived to find this page and listen to Liz. At last someone who understands just what I'm going through, I thought it was only happening to me, or I was going mad! I have all the same symptoms, irritability, loss of interest in everything and everyone around me, tiredness and forgetfulness. How I sympathise. But what do we do?