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HEALTH FAMILY PROBLEMS RELATIONSHIPS EDUCATION & CAREER Dear What’s the Problem I am an unmarried woman and I have searched the internet for a partner but I’ve never met a marriageable man. A few were happy to be cyber lovers or phone sex partners but I am not satisfied with this kind of relationship. But should I be more open, meet those short-term relationship seekers just in case one of them is right, or stick to seeking out a long term partner? And - by the way - do you think it is considered adultery to have phone sex with a married man? Mei Ling, Hong Kong. Advice: Tricia Kreitman (Counsellor) Adultery usually means the consummation of a relationship but although this is not the case in phone sex, most women would consider it a serious breach of trust. Men tend to feel that it does not affect their normal relationship because they see it as just an extension of pornography. However, the internet is a very good place for meeting people and it is worth meeting some of them in person if they sound good and are in your area. Just make sure you do it in a safe and public space and tell someone where you’re going in advance. It’s also worth getting to know people on sites of special interest, as well as sites for finding a partner. This way you can meet people who share your interests and you can talk about subjects that are not too intimate. The What's the Problem? website is providing general information only. It should not be treated as a substitute for the medical advice of your own doctor or any other health care professional. The BBC is not responsible or liable for any diagnosis made by a user based on the content of the What's the Problem? website. Always consult your own GP if you're in any way concerned about your health.		FURTHER INFORMATION   Internet Dating Tips *Use a new free email account to instead of your normal email address *Don’t give anyone your address or phone number until you are sure about them *If you decide to meet someone for a date, do so in a public place *Don’t give inaccurate information about yourself *Being honest is the best way of finding a true match on the internet    INTERNET LINKS Cyber love   Internet dating   The BBC is not responsible for the content of external Internet sites