As your child grows, they might start to show an interest in being independent and making their own choices, which can be both exciting and nerve-wracking as a parent!
So how do you encourage them to make their own decisions, while still being a supportive parent?
Here are some top tips for helping your little one make choices…
Give them options
At the right moment, it can be fun to try and let your child make choices.
A good way to start is by offering two different options and then letting your child pick what they prefer.
This might take a bit of practice so it’s important to keep choices calm and controlled – remember that it’s a completely new skill for your child.
If you find it is taking a while for them to make a decision, remember it is okay to step in – there will always be plenty of other opportunities for your child to learn and practise.
Follow up
Another key way to support your child once they have made a choice, is to respond and ask follow up questions.
This gives your child a chance to engage and develop their understanding the decision they've made.
Remember to keep language simple and easy to understand – your child will start to pick out key words and use context to find out what you mean.
You could repeat their choice back to them - 'you want an apple?' - to the reinforce the language used.
Build choices into routines
Even small decisions bring confidence and independence to your child, so it can be good to try making little choices often.
Different levels for different days
Your child might be much better at decision-making one day than another – this is totally normal.
Even as adults, sometimes when we are hungry, tired, or sleepy it can be harder for us to calmly make decisions.
It’s important to remember that consistency is much more important than perfection – and regular practice will keep you on the path to progress.
Be patient and kind to yourself and focus on enjoying your child’s individual journey.
