If the art of pulling has passed you by, then it's time to get some practice in. Follow our Onelife guide and bag yourself a babe!
Step 1: Pay attention to your appearance
First impressions are everything in the flirting game and a well-groomed man holds more appeal than one with grubby fingernails and scruffy clothes. Slobs don't get snogs.
Step 2: Stand out from the crowd
If you're out with a posse of blokes, your prospective pull might be too intimidated to come over. Send out some sneaky flirt signals:
Tip 1: Stand slightly apart from the rest of your group to demonstrate your individuality
Tip 2: Subtly exaggerate your usual gestures to grab her attention
Tip 3: Point your body in her direction to show her you're interested
Step 3: Make eye contact
Body language experts call this the 'eyebrow flash'. Lock eyes with her and – quickly and subtly – allow your brows to rise and fall. If you see her do the same to you, she's interested – even more so if she parts her lips or smiles.
Step 4: Pay her a compliment
It's time to approach, but don't blow it with a cheesy chat-up line. An honest compliment will be better received. (Hint: 'great boobs' doesn't count.) Alternatively, start with a generic icebreaker like: 'Why haven't I seen you here before?'
Step 5: Find her fascinating
Keep your eyebrows slightly raised when she talks to you and lean in towards her, giving her your full attention. Finally, look at her mouth when she speaks – deep down she'll be wondering whether you're thinking about kissing her, which in turn will make her think about kissing you. And, if all goes to plan, this should be the happy conclusion to your night out.
She's definitely interested. Now what?
Relationships expert Peta Heskell, author of The Flirt Coach's Secrets of Attraction, shares her top tips:
Make her giggle! Nearly all women want a man who makes them laugh and is fun to be with. GSOH (good sense of humour) is the most common phrase in personal ads.
Talk with your eyes. Our eyes are one of the most powerful tools we have for communicating with other people. Make eye contact with her and, just in your mind, tell her why you find her attractive.
Keep it on the sunny side. Don't spoil the conversation by encouraging her to talk about something she'd rather avoid. Instead ask questions like: 'So what do you do for fun?'.
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