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Letters of love

The language of love

How many ways are there to tell someone you love them? Does a text saying I LUV U mean as much as an old fashioned love letter that drops through the door with the rest of the post? As part of BBC Voices, we look at the changing language of love.


The written word has conjured love and romance in the hearts and minds of people around the world for hundreds of years.

From the poetry and prose of Wordsworth and Shakespeare, to the love letters home from a forces sweetheart carrying their emotions to the heart of someone special.

Traditionally it's been songs and letters that have held a written romance - now there's texting, instant messaging via your computer and e-mail.

But does a beep on your mobile and I LUV U, say as much as SWALK on the back of a hand-written envelope that carries the scent of a lovers' perfume?

And it's not just the methods of communication which have changed – the way in which language is used has changed too.

Olga Sinclair is an author of historical romance who's lived in Norfolk all her life. She feels the meaning of words is very different to the way it was.

"The words have changed. When you say 'to make love', now it actually means having sex together, going a lot further than when I was young," she said.

Love letters

Love letters were particularly important to Helen and Bill Cook from Diss. They wrote more than 6000 letters to each other during World War Two.

"We used to write on any scrap of paper we could find. Paper was very scarce in those days," said Helen.

"Once a week we had an air-letter to send, but it's a wonder they got through in the war," she added.

Fortunately, cupid was on Helen and Bill's side and their letters did get through. Helen and Bill have subsequently made it into the Guinness Book of Records for their literary romance.

Telling each other how much they cared in those letters was very important.

"In a time like that where everything has been destroyed, it was about looking forwards and faith. That we hoped would come together again and of course we did. We were the lucky ones," said Helen.

"You'd think you might get tired of telling each other you loved each other, but there were so many ways of saying it in those days," she added.

In an extract from a letter Bill wrote to Helen before going overseas, he said:

... and so may you be very happy using each experience as a step towards the time when we can build our own community of fellowship and service. Good night and God bless you my darling.

Yours, very much in love, Bill

New writing

In a modern age, according to people in Norfolk, texts and even e-mails don't appear to have the same appeal as a letter when writing to a loved one.

"There's something nice about a letter, something romantic I suppose that you don't get in a text. It's rather impersonal," said one person.

"Certainly I would rather send a love letter than I would a love text or whatever. I hope that the written language doesn't fall by the wayside, but I very much suspect that it will," said another.

BBC Radio Norfolk's Maggie Secker presents this three part documentary on the ever changing language of love.
audioPlay: Language Of Love - Part I >
audioPlay: Language Of Love - Part II >
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last updated: 17/08/05
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Is the traditional love letter a thing of the past, to be replaced by texting or e-mail? Did you ever send a love letter? What was the response?
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John Neville
As a youth I was very nervous at the idea of sending a love letter but, finally I managed. When I met my beloved in the street I looked for a smile on her face but saw anger. Apparently I had written another girl's name on the envelope in my panic.!

Ikey
ITALY (I trust and love you) HOLLAND (hope our love live and never die) There is no ROMANCE today. no COURTING with intrique.

Beth
I agree that letters were very romantic and sweet, but we're in the 21st Century now where text messaging is changing the english langauge Immensely. A new languabge is being formed by the younger generation which I feel we should all embrace and encourage.

Emma Allen
Letters much more romantic, you can keep them and you know that they have thought behind them

Lauren and shona
we think that a text is nice to have in the middle of the night when your lonely but a love letter will last forever and mean alot more. thanks

lynn faulds
My boyfriend used to always write love letters. Recently they have become more scarce, possibly because we lived abroad then and being back in britain has put strain on our relationship. Let's hope today's world wont split us up!

frankmullerjr
verygood

Tim Brown
Nothing can replace love letters, I still have all my love letters written through our courting years. Every now and again I take them out and reread them, theres also memeries that no text message will ever be able to relay. Bring back hand written letters.

Helen
I think letters are far better than texts. It only takes a few minutes at the most to write a text, a letter usually takes a bit more time, and you know that they don't mind giving up a bit of time for you.

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