'I felt hurt and used afterwards'

Sophie [not her real name] spoke to the BBC's Eleanor Bradford at the Sandyford Initiative, a sexual health service provider in Glasgow.

I'm at the Sandyford because my cousin thinks she's pregnant, so I've come along to give her moral support.

She's the same age as me, 14.

The BBC's Eleanor Bradford speaks to Sophie (not her real name) Read 16-year-old Gary's story Read 14-year-old Jasmine's story

I met him at a party. He said if you love me you'd do it.

I believed him when he said that. So I did. And he dumped me the next day.

I felt used and hurt afterwards. He told everyone about it so it gave me a bad name.

I still see him around but we just avoid each other.

It would take me a lot longer to trust someone now, so I know that he's going to stay with me.

I won't make the same mistake again.

If I was going out with someone now, I would wait three months or longer until I had sex with him, to make sure he isn't going to use me again.

Many of my friends are sexually active - I know someone who had sex at the age of 12, when they were drunk.

Is that the right age to be having sex? It depends on the situation, whether you've got a boyfriend, whether you feel ready - it's different for different people.

Of all my friends there's only one person who's a virgin and people always ask her when she's going to lose it.

I haven't spoken to my parents about this kind of thing. It's awkward when it pops up in conversation, so I try to avoid it.

We get our information about sex and sexual health from friends and older people, because there's nothing at school.

In magazines there are columns that tell you what's right and what's not.

With my friends, if the boy doesn't want to wear a condom, sometimes they have to find something else, like the morning after pill.

But some people say the boy has to wear a condom or they're not having sex.

I know one boy in the year above me who picked up something.

When he told people they said well done for getting checked because it takes a lot to do that.

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