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| Monday, 7 October, 2002, 15:27 GMT 16:27 UK Should smacking be banned? ![]() The United Nations has heavily criticised the UK for failing to ban smacking, in a report published on Friday. The UK signed the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child 11 years ago, but according to the report by a committee of international child welfare experts, it is failing to protect children from violence and exploitation. The document said the government should outlaw all corporal punishment in the family. But the minister for young people, John Denham, says parents should be allowed to smack their children. He said the government was "proud" of its record of achievement for UK children. Should smacking be banned or are parents entitled to smack their children? Is the UK failing to protect its young people? This debate is now closed. Read a selection of your comments below. Your reaction
Craig Lewell, England In countries where smacking is banned, parents still smack, so it just teaches kids that laws are there to be broken. I'm a parent of an 8 year old boy and 5 year old girl. About once a month the boy gets a smack on the hand, about twice a year for the girl. Sometimes mental torture works - being sent to room. Most times reasoning works with a cuddle.
Sarah, USA Sarah from the USA is utterly wrong. A gentle smack is not an act of violence. It is this kind of fatuous argument which has brought us to where we are today. I have two children. I love them. I occasionally smack them. I am not a child beater and no amount of politically correct rhetoric will ever make me one. The call for a ban on smacking is irrelevant. A smack is common assault and as such can be prosecuted through the courts. The UN is an unelected body, this issue is none of their business. There are already UK laws in place to deal with the excessive beating of a child. The thing that should be banned is unelected bureaucrats meddling in the affairs of other countries.
Josephine, UK Bringing up happy children requires almost all your time when they are awake, and if you are too tired, impatient or overworked to give them the attention they need, smacking must seem a very convenient short cut to authority, but really it is nothing more than laziness and bullying. Should superiors in the workplace be allowed to smack the staff when they misbehave? The main difference is that children are smaller and therefore unable to hit back or sue. Where do you draw the line? When the UN can manage the world without violence of any kind we shall be more inclined to listen to its pontifications about childcare. I was never smacked as a child. There was no need as my parents explained to me what I had done wrong so that I knew not to do it again.
Dennis, UK There's certainly a time and place for smacking children. I am, however, horrified at the number of young parents who stand outdoors screaming at their little, terrified children, before lifting them up and smacking them. No child deserves this kind of mental and physical torture. I'm totally against any form of violence when it comes to children. Unfortunately there are practical implications that make the implementation of laws that ban smacking difficult. What is needed alongside laws is educational campaigns to inform parents of the alternative approach they can follow in raising their children. Make no mistake, you can't smack your children, even in the lightest form, and not expect them to reproduce such aggression when they grow up.
Viki, Wales To smack a child is not inherently wrong - it only becomes so if the parent is lashing out in anger rather than it being done in a controlled manner to discipline the child. If done correctly, with plenty of forewarning, often just the threat alone is enough and the child will stop whatever they were doing. I was smacked as a child, for disobeying, stealing, swearing or bad manners. What did it teach me? Obey when asked, don't steal, don't swear in front of adults and respect older people. I will smack my kids if they deserve it even if it is illegal. Let the law try and stop me.
Susan, UK A little smack never did me any harm. When I look back it has done me more good than anything else. No child will stop doing anything we adults deem as dangerous just by raising your voice. A little smack and a raised voice will register a lot more when you are trying to get an important message across. I was a monster when I was a kid and deserved a good slap when I got one. If this kind of law is passed, will we have kids taking their parents to court because they got a slap when they were naughty? I'm glad my parents let me know what was right and wrong, because trying to reason with me when I was a kid would not have worked!
Richard, UK In my mind there is a definite correlation between recent laws on non-smacking and the misbehaviour of our youth. There is an argument about being able to smack children, but not adults; are we confusing disciplining our own offspring with assaulting adults? Ridiculous. What we need to do is define the difference between 'battering' and a smack, then to allow parents to make sensible judgement. We need discipline. What you are trying to ban is the abuse side of things but this also impedes parents showing their children the discipline they need. Soon we will have a country of Phil and Grant Mitchells - where everyone takes the law into their own hands. I remember seeing kids at school getting the cane, ruler or the pump. Bring back those days and I am sure you would see a dramatic change in how children act.
Jayne, UK As a father to a child of 18 months, most of the incidents of smacking that I have witnessed have seemed to display an absence of self control on the parent's part. That is, the perceived offence by the child has seemed rather trivial when compared to the punishment metered out. However, smacking may be the only alternative in some situations for example where the child is putting its life in real danger, say by playing around when crossing the road, and therefore I cannot advocate a total ban.
Jenny, UK I have no children of my own yet, I can only comment on my upbringing, where I was taught respect for people and property through verbal and physical discipline. This has made me into a well rounded individual. Kids today are heavily influenced by advertising and all forms of media and this allows them to think they are better than everyone else. I strongly believe physical punishment should be allowed at home and in schools as long as it is used in reasonable circumstances.
Jason, Manchester, England Can I ask a favour, can anyone stating an opinion here please state whether they have brought any children up or not? I reckon that would help to qualify any advice or opinion given. For Paul, I have brought up children, but never smacked them where there was no need. My wife had already dealt with them. I got the odd clip on more than one occasion and I have not suffered for it.
Lynda, UK Small children don't understand reasoning - they do understand a wee smack. Keeps them from doing dangerous things like running out onto the road and teaches them to behave. It never did anyone any harm - in fact I'd say it probably does a lot of good! |
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