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I started watching it by accident after channel flicking and then couldn't pull myself away Roxanne, Watford

This was such a fascinating programme. Why can't more programmes be as insightful? I was deeply moved by Xinhau's story and truly hope that he finds happiness in the future.
Stephanie Murray, Salford

Fascinating, tragic and a brilliant illustration of the fact that what is good for the whole isn't necessarily what is good for the individual.
Dei, UK

I really enjoyed this programme. I started watching it by accident after channel flicking and then couldn't pull myself away. Xinhau Lu's story was really sad, especially when he was asked what type of women he likes and he replied with "an ordinary girl". What a catch he would be: hard working, family-orientated, lovely personality and good-looking. Hopefully something will happen to change his fortunes.
Roxanne, Watford

As one of four daughters of a Chinese father, I have seen all to well the disappointment that having no sons can bring. Deep social change is needed to change the Chinese point of view that sons are preferable to daughters.
Mei Goh, London

This programme raised my awareness about the problems the people in China suffer and I hope the Chinese government put a stop to their law about only having one child. More programmes like this please.
Catherine G, Belfast

It was really sad to watch Xinhau's dreams gradually diminish Sam, Croydon

Fascinating programme, completely gripping, extraordinary insights. Please can we have more programming like this.
Kathy, UK

I thoroughly enjoyed this programme and felt for the young men and their struggle to find a partner. Similarly, I was moved by the treatment of the girls who were kidnapped, abused and sold to desperate bachelors. I hope there is a quick an effective solution to this but I can't see where it will come from, at least for the existing generation.
Stephen Tait, Glasgow

It was really sad to watch Xinhau's dreams gradually diminish. I really hope things start to look up for him. It is a real shame that things have come to this in the 21st century. Watching this programme has made me appreciate the things I have a lot more than I did before.
Sam, Croydon

I was very interested and sad to see this still going on after all these years. I am Chinese and as a girl was adopted into an English family in the mid 60s, a time when lots of girls where being adopted into English families in the UK and USA.

In this day and age the rural areas still keep up with the traditions even though the main cities are becoming more Westernised. Good luck to the independent girls in the cities who have a choice. A good programme.
Rachel Rollinson, Licolnshire

It is time that countries like China accept that the male bias cannot continue Ajay Chowdhary, London

I loved the documentary Looking for China Girl. I was particularly struck by the story of the first man who had trouble adjusting to work in the city and returned to his farm at the end of the programme.
Claire, UK

I can't help thinking that the Chinese government should encourage single men to perhaps emigrate to other countries for work. Or maybe encourage women from other countries to live in China, promising benefits? These ideas may seem far-fetched but I can't think of any other immediate solutions
Ray, Sussex

This was an excellent show. It clearly demonstrates that people around the world need to question age-old beliefs as they are simply not compatible in today's world. I found the contrast between the lifestyles of the individuals featured truly frightening.

It is time that countries like China accept that the male bias cannot continue and it is time to give women their due rights as true equals in society whether it comes to education, rights, inheritance or respect. Tonight's programme clearly illustrated the impacts of not removing this social evil.
Ajay Chowdhary, London

I think it is a good idea that if a couple have a daughter they can have another one and qualify for benefits from the government. But it is sad to see how parents have been giving up by aborting or abandoning baby girls. Something should be done about this to get the percentage of females up again.
Ashley, London

I would have like to have seen some discussion as to why the one child policy is seen as necessary. I deplore it but can't think of a better way to contain the population.
Adam Porter, China

What a fantastic programme this was Rory Winston, London

This was a very interesting documentary. It seems the only way out for the average Chinese man is for the government to relax its current policy of one family, one child. The policy has bred the current unenviable situation which may snowball into wider social and psychological problems, not just for the men, but for the nation at large.
Olurotimi Paul Idowu, London

What a sad, sad story for that farm boy. I used to think that I was in a bad way, working too hard and not finding someone, but I'm going to keep my trap shut now and be thankful that there aren't going to be another 40 million odd chaps like me chasing a diminishing number of women in the UK.
John, UK

What a fantastic programme this was. It was utterly fascinating from start to finish. The poignant results of the Chinese government's flawed one child policy could not be more clear. More shows like this, please.
Rory Winston, London

Maybe they need to stop treating women as third class citizens.
Marie Knight, St Leonards on Sea

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